A weekend of fun and educational activities for LGBTTTQQIAA HS youth hosted by students at a small university in Maine

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Raising a Rainbow Village!

Oh Mylanta! What a BEAUTIFUL AMAZING CRAZY weekend! 🙂  It takes a Campus and so many other volunteers and donors to raise a Rainbow Village!  Huge thanks all around and also Happy Pride month!

Representative comments on what the HS youth had to say:
Prompt: What does Rainbow Ball Weekend mean to you:
“A weekend to be me where I don’t have to hide or be afraid of who I am. Rainbow Ball is the entire reason I came out.”
“It’s a place I can be myself and I don’t have to hide. I feel so free I could cry. I’m very sad that it’s my last year.”
“Rainbow Ball this year was something new to me. This year I have come out as gender queer, and I have to be closeted at home. I felt safe and being called THEY made my heart flutter. I feel empowered and amazing. Thank you!”
“The Rainbow ball means freedom to me. At home I can’t be myself, I can’t wear my suit, I can’t see my girlfriend…here I can.”
“The Rainbow Ball is my sanctuary, I feel so at peace and at home here with everyone.”

For fun – by the Numbers: 246 T-Shirts (3 designs: youth, counselors, staff), 234 prom attendees, 231 Total non UMM Guests for the Weekend, 201 Youth Guests (& school staff, some parents, and counselors -153 attended in 2015); a couple hundred of preferred pronoun and other LGBTQ+ pins made by two high school groups; 55 straight hours this weekend with students for some teachers; 44 (12 brand new) Unique Workshops/ Presentations/ Support Groups/ Activities; 25 donated copies of Transformation of an American Family autographed by Nicole & Wayne Maines; 24 performances at the Talent Showcase,19 Schools and youth organizations, 16 UMM Alumni/former student volunteers, 15 table representatives from various organizations; 12 trips to Hannaford’s, 8 counselors who were previous attendees, 5 meals, 5 cakes, 4 games at Prom, 3 buses, 2 fabulous drag queens, 2 UMPI Alumni, 1 UMPI Faculty, 1 EMCC Faculty, 1 Feedback Session,  and 1 herd of dinosaurs: bisexual brontosaurus, lesbian leopluridon, flaming homosaurus, asexual archeopteryx, gay gallimimus, pansexual pantydraco, questioning quasetosaurus, transgender pterodactyl, and ally allosaurus.

Mark your calendars! We are busy planning the unconventional  Machias Rainbow Con this October 14 & 15 as a partial fundraiser – after expenses.

Rainbow Ball Weekend Photo Backdrop

Rainbow Ball Weekend Photo Backdrop


Spring Gayly Forward

Rainbow ball is important because it teaches a lot especially that you’re not alone, you’re not the only one. You make long lasting friendships.” 2015 student attendee

As we approach this year’s Rainbow Ball Weekend, April 8-10, 2016 at the University of Maine at Machias there have been some highlights since last April. We were thrilled that our tiny campus made the Campus Pride top 25 LGBT-friendly college index, 100% Faculty Advisor, Lois-Ann Kuntz was honored to receive the Equality Maine Community Courage Award, and we received a Maine Community Foundation Equity grant award for the Rainbow Ball Weekend. No matter that we’re small, we are mighty. You too are mighty, even one person can make profound changes.  We have been deeply saddened by the passing of Kevin Dutil of Coney High School and Peter Rees of Downeast GLSEN both stalwart supporters of LGBT+ youth and Rainbow Ball Weekend. They were mighty.  It’s up to us to continue their work.

We have some exciting developments for this year’s 9th Annual Rainbow Ball Weekend! We’re including a Youth Career Expo on Friday April 8th during the day and our local career center will be offering workshops on Hot Jobs in Maine. Also on Friday, UMM’s Maine Writer Series has invited the Rainbow Ballers to attend a reading by author Arielle Greenberg who’s writing includes LGBT topics. We will have other career related activities like musical improv and archaeology digs.  As always we’re looking forward to what the kids present at the talent show on Friday night – make sure they bring their props!

On Saturday our keynote speaker will be Zack Paakkonen, with Portland Maine Legal, and he will be addressing legal issues of transgender youth in Maine schools. And… speaking of legal issues for Maine trans youth, Random House Publishing has donated 25 copies of the wonderful book,  Becoming Nicole: The Transformation of an American Family by Amy Nutt for attending schools to take to their libraries. Interested attendees will also get to work with faculty on writing and prints for an LGBTQ Youth chapbook. Finally, the Jurassic Jamboree themed Rainbow Ball dance Saturday night should be a leviathan of a good time. 😉

We’re excited that UMPI’s 100% student organization as well as the Health Equity Alliance  are pitching in again to offer workshop/counseling/testing and more support! As always we’re looking forward to a great weekend with Maine’s LGBT youth. The schedule… is still under construction but other than all these new developments… will be similar to last year. 🙂

FMI, registration,and or counselor applications please go to our website: 100% Society or e-mail downeastme@chapters.glsen.org.  If you would like to donate or want to showcase your business/ group/ nonprofit at the Queer Career Youth Expo, please see this same site and the vendor materials, we had >170 guests last year.  For those of you who have questions/ offered help/ registered/ applied to be counselors – thank you & thanks for your patience!

As for future plans, in addition to our annual Rainbow Ball Weekend, the 100% Society is helping to host the first Machias RainbowCon October 14-15 in partnership with the Machias Bay Area Chamber of Commerce for fun and to raise funds for the Rainbow Ball Weekend. And if you’re in Washington County, ME, stay tuned for a free fall workshop for educators and mental health providers (CEU’s available), One Lonely Kid at a Time hosted by the LBGTQ Community Circle.

We’re all on journeys and best wishes to all of us on our shared journey towards 100% equality. “When all Americans are treated as equal, no matter who they are or whom they love, we are all more free.” — U.S. President Barack Obama

As always please share, especially if you know youth who might benefit. Thanks!


June Prides n’ Brides

N’ Graduations! All the Beauty and Love warding off pain, loneliness, rejection, depression and fear. We hope it lasts forever with the truth and self-confidence that lifts us outside of us, above us into a rainbow community wrapped in summer sunshine.  Two young women, one who has attended Rainbow Ball four years, are getting married this week. Rainbow tassel graduates everywhere. Congratulations and Best Wishes to all.  Mount Desert Island High School served up a warm fuzzy of a Rainbow Festival including Bar Harbor’s fabulous ImprovAcadia. Maine has two Pride events left and we’re going to celebrate – Pride Portland! and Bangor Pride.  June.

We had an epic Rainbow Ball and are going ahead and planning our next one though it will require serious fundraising.  How can we not continue when there are so many written comments similar to these? Go ahead and wrap yourself up in this sunshine.

“For the first time in my life I felt accepted and like it was okay that I love who I love, and made me feel the happiest I have in years because I’m not stuck living in a ‘closet’ like I am at home.”

“Because you get to meet so many nice, sweet, and welcoming people and it often helps people gain confidence, I know I have. It’s only my second year coming and I’ve been fully willing to meet and talk with people.”

 “Rainbow ball is important because it teaches a lot especially that you’re not alone you’re not the only one. You make long lasting friendships.”

 “I think I would share the fact that a person can learn a lot about themselves at this event. You might learn about your identity, sexuality, other people’s experiences, and maybe even new interest like book making.”

 “I would tell people that Rainbow Ball is a place to learn and have fun, like how schools should be.”

 “It honestly saves lives. And not everyone knows that.”

 “Education is power, and with all of the education you can get about LGBTQ, you can have so much power and voice.”

 “I would tell them that everyone is very nice and respectful with names and pronouns.”

 “That it is a great place to make lots of amazing friends and that the people and stories here are relatable and eye opening.”

 “I had a great time. I would tell them that there are great people and that there is so many opportunities to learn and have fun and that you won’t want to leave.”

“I would just tell people that this is an awesome program for people in general. Whether you’re questioning, coming out, need info or need reassurance that you are not alone!”

“Its good to be surrounded by people that won’t judge you no matter who you are.”

“It’s so empowering to meet people who have been through the same things as you and are just like you.”

“Rainbow ball is important because it teaches a lot especially that you’re not alone you’re not the only one. You make long lasting friendships.”


Make out your checks to “Rainbow Ball Fundraising” and mail to:

100% Society, University of Maine at Machias, 116 O’Brien Avenue, Machias, ME 04654

Image from the 2014 Grammy Awards


Rainbow PumpkinsIt’s the time of year when the final harvests are coming in and people are getting together for the holidays.  The rainbow pumpkin image was staged and taken by Heather, our new workstudy student for Rainbow Ball Weekend.  Here’s why she’s invested:

I first heard about Rainbow Ball when I was a senior in high school. I was part of their GSDA (Gay Straight Diversity Alliance) and we were all going to go. I really wanted to go, but my mom wouldn’t let me. I didn’t know that the 100% society from University of Maine at Machias helped with it. I had applied to this school earlier in the year. I decided on going and when I got here I realized that I would be able to go to Rainbow Ball and not only attend, but help with it. I was beyond excited. Rainbow Ball is one of my favorite events of the year. It brings me so much happiness to have a place that I can say that I fit in.

A local community group in our area planted an amazing crop of energy around starting more GSTAs in our county.  I was able to attend their truly inspirational meeting recently and found out there are two new seedling clubs starting and the established high school Gay Straight Alliance (GSA) will help nurture them!

We also discussed the importance of having the T for Transgender in the high school GSA clubs.  Schools really seem to stumble over using the word transgender in the title and the idea of gender variant people.  We must be inclusive in our communities.  We know that having GSTAs in schools makes all students safer.  In Maine, in addition to hearing negative comments from other students, 31% regularly heard school staff make negative remarks about someone’s gender expression and 16% regularly heard staff make homophobic remarks. As one of the students at the meeting said, “we have to educate people”, clearly that must include educators – current and future.

We have so much to be thankful for this Thanksgiving such as 33 states with legal same-sex marriage & 7 more states where the marriage ban has been overturned and are in appeals court.  The State Supreme Court ruling in favor of the Maines family over a school which did not allow their daughter to access the girl’s restroom is precedent setting and a long, hard-fought victory this year that is something we can all be thankful for. If you would like to watch a recent panel on transgender student support that includes Wayne Maines, please click here.

We’re so thankful for all who are working to improve support and acceptance for LGBTQ youth in our communities. We have to turn the corner on the ignorance, fear, and hate that created the annual Transgender Day of Remembrance. Educate around the Thanksgiving table if you have the chance and may yours be happy! “We are the change we have been waiting for.” Mark your calendars – Rainbow Ball Weekend – April 10-12 2015, Carnival Theme!

Who Will Hear? A Poem for You!

Dr. Crittenden led the successful poetry workshop at the Rainbow Ball Weekend in April.  He wrote an example poem to share with the students who participated and with his permission, I have copied it below.  More? Yes, please: Owl Who Laughs The dates for the 8th Annual Rainbow Ball Weekend are April 10-12, 2015. We’ve already started planning!  Hope you’re excited too!

Who Will Hear? by Chris Crittenden

i want to be heard by you

more than anyone

but it seems you are less likely to hear me

than anyone,

and that is part of my shout

as i write this.

but i do know one thing:

someone will hear this poem–someone will.

i’m not sure who or where

but i am not the only one

who has felt the brick wall

of a shoulder turning away;

who has felt the iron gate

of family or community, locking shut.

some people close their thoughts

within layers of fear

to keep who i am from getting in.

this poem is me daring to speak.

this poem is my courage,

singing out in a world that

is often ugly in the ways it perceives.

as i write these words,

i realize there is one person

who needs to hear them

more than anyone else–and that is me.

i deserve to embrace my own voice

and my own right to shout out

and to sing and laugh–

to be proud of who i am.

it does not matter

if this poem earns someone else’s high grade.

just by writing down what I feel, what I think–

that makes this poem special,

and it reminds me that I am special,

and through all the emotions

and all experiences that i will have throughout my life;

and all the joys and hopes; the loves

and sweet memories; and also the

frustrations and fears, and

the walls of ears that just won’t hear me,

through all this,

throughout everything,

i am beautiful —

just the way i am.

Rainbow is the New Black

What does Rainbow Ball mean to you?

“It is a place with no judgment and 100% supportive.”
“Chance to meet people like me and be happy without being insulted.”
“I can be myself and be with the person I love without being scared.”
“A place to meet other people and not feel left out.”
“A place to be myself, felt at home and like I belong somewhere.”

Those are a few representative comments from high school youth who attended the 7th Annual RBW.  This is the environment and outcome we strive for each and every year for the  Rainbow Ball Weekend.  It is hard for me to write a post that captures the fullness, intensity, openness, exhaustion, euphoria, trepidation, energy, drama, thankfulness, chaos, acceptance, sharing, and love from this year’s weekend.  It’s kinda like not being able to stare at the sun or bottle a rainbow.  No matter the size of the contribution, from sharing information about the weekend, to full immersion of sleeping on floor with youth to look after, to giving a workshop, every contribution mattered to someone and we, the hosts, are so grateful for the help.

Here’s a flavor of the weekend which is easier for the scientist part of me to convey.  Rainbow Ball Weekend 2014 By the numbers:

225+ attendees at the Dance, 188 Total Visitors for the Weekend, 119 High School Youth and Chaperones, 40 college attendees and helpers, 35 Individual UMM Faculty & Staff who supported the weekend, 33 Discrete events (3 planned by youth at one of the attending high schools), 18 OMG Queer books donated by Bold Strokes Books that went to attending high schools, 12 Community partners (Beehive Design Collective, Down East AIDS Network, Downeast GLSEN, Eastman Studios, The Trevor Project, AMHC Sexual Assault Services, Broadway Styles, ImprovAcadia, Equality Maine, Maine Community Foundation Equity Fund, Southern Maine GLSEN, & University of Maine System Diversity Committee), 6 Meals, 6 Workshops for educators/counselors, 6 decoration making craft parties, 3 Absolutely Fabulous Drag Queens hosting the youth talent show, 2 devoted facebook groups, 1 Rainbow Ball Photo Gallery Exhibit, 1 Rainbow Ball poem, 1 work study student, 1 Unity Unicorn giant comic strip, 1 NJ reporter writing a book about the Maines Family’s journey for justice that might end with Wayne & Nicole giving the Rainbow Ball keynote address.

Photo by Christopher Dickinson

Feedback Is a Gift

“Hey Lois-Ann! Could you let me know when applications go up for counselors? 🙂 ”

I was so excited in the fall to get this facebook message from a counselor from last year’s Rainbow Ball Weekend.   They also volunteered to coordinate the southern Maine bus stops again! Awesomeness.

The Rainbow Ball Weekend has changed in some way every year we’ve hosted it.  We take feedback from attendees and make suggested changes when we can.  Sometimes it takes us more than a year because of finances or structure.  For example, we added workshops and crafts and an admissions tour where there weren’t any in the beginning based on feedback from advisors.  We added zumba, martial arts, and belly dance activities based on a suggestion from a parent.  We also add and subtract from the three days based on our experiences of hosting it as well as if something seems important to include in a given year.  We had to nix the rave in the pool when we outgrew the safety regulations.  We added the support groups but learned to make it very clear that someone could go the support group of most interest (gay, bi/pan, ally, asexual, transgender, gender non binary, lesbian, questioning) and that chaperones should not go to these based on student feedback.

This year it seems really important to have a parallel track of workshops for educators and mental health providers for changing and supporting lgbt youth which will help these youth in different ways than the RBW itself.

We want to support college students as well as there isn’t much at many of the campuses in Maine, but it is hard to do both at once.  So  we kinda compromised, we have counselors.  These are former rainbow ball youth and/or current college students from other institutions who get training via distance and are such an amazing addition.

The small crew of 100% and friends, “Ballers”, scurry around decorating, giving workshops, setting up events, answering questions on a round the clock kind of schedule.  So, these designated godsends counselors for groups help provide the youth more of a mentoring experience and help make sure their folks get to where they need to go. Remember,“They put together the weekend’s events with small grants, donations, and volunteers. It is held together with bubble gum, baling wire, lobster traps and Down East love.”  The counselors make it possible for us to continue.

There was a time when we very very very seriously attempted to get a larger campus to host the weekend as it is tough for a tiny campus with few people/resources.  Three types of feedback convinced us otherwise. 1. Our president Dr. Cindy Huggins  encouraged us to keep going here if we could. 2. Our biggest youth supporters OUT! As I Want to Be Rockland  felt that our small, remote, safe campus was a preferred venue for wrangling a group of youth.  3. There wasn’t a larger campus which was jumping up and down to host. Ha!  We recommitted, went all in, and we own this hot glitter mess. 🙂

Action Hero Shout Outs:  There is a real need to support our lgbt youth and their allies and families.  In Maine there are 70 school clubs supported by over 100 amazing advisors who are directly supporting their students and their schools throughout the school year and beyond.   We have much love and admiration for these folks and many of the 100% members can point to an advisor who supported them in school and members want to pay it forward. We are all supported by the regional organizations Southern Maine GLSEN  and Downeast Maine GLSEN  whose members work hard to be networks of support for all the clubs and encourage us too!  Let us know what we can do to make it better for you – we want feedback.  We need your help to improve!

Unity Unicorn

“In a world plagued by darkness and hatred, one hero stands to protect those who shine bright.” Cover page of our Unity Unicorn comic strip prom photo backdrop! Design and photo by Chelsee Acklee

Because our fabulous counselors are there, they also give the traveling school advisors and chaperones some breathing space for networking during RBW.  In no way is this a respite weekend for the school folks and we hope they are willing to keep coming with their kids when they work so hard year round.

Last night I heard from a friend who was studying in Alaska for a couple years that there were folks he’d run into who had heard about Rainbow Ball Weekend!  Sure there is some type of Maine-Alaska corridor, but is was seriously cool to hear!  There was also a wonderful and successful fundraiser at Mount Desert Island High School for Rainbow Ball Weekend and their Black Rose Theater fund with the folks from Improve Acadia http://www.improvacadia.com/ The countdown continues.